Friday 26 January 2018

MANAGING STRESS.



YOUR STRESS-DRIVEN MICROMANAGING HURTS YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

Take a moment to think about it, and you may start to notice all those signs of your conscientiousness as indicators of something a little less healthy. Maybe you get frustrated by employees not following your instructions. Or you feel anxious about missing out on information, so you attend every important meeting, even when you’re slammed. You even ask your team to reschedule if you can’t make it, rather than trusting them to represent you. And you want to be copied on emails all the time.

Work-related stress is a likely culprit. When you feel overwhelmed, you worry that you don’t have a good handle on things–so what do you do? You tighten your grip on everything. The first step to loosening it up (and reducing your own stress in the process) is simply recognizing the impact that your micromanaging is having. Think back over the past few months, and ask yourself these four questions:

1. Am I killing my team’s creativity? All innovative ideas start as something new, untested, and relatively crazy. If your employees don’t feel they have the freedom to test out new things, they’ll give up being creative. If there’s been a recent project or brainstorm where you felt the solutions and ideas were sub-par, you might be to blame.

2. Am I tamping down performance, or causing people to leave? Micromanaging tells an employee that you don’t trust their judgment. One 2011 study found that people who believe they’re being watched perform at lower levels as a result. As you offload your own stress onto your employees by micromanaging them, they may even start looking for the door. Rumor will get out that you’re a micromanager and people won’t want to join your team.

3. Am I harming my team members’ health? This is no exaggeration. We know that lack of autonomy at work causes stress–after all, that’s likely a key factor for your micromanaging habit in the first place. But last year researchers at the Indiana University’s Kelley School of Business identified potentially serious health-related ramifications, too–including links to mortality. Examining workers over a seven-year period, the researchers found that people in demanding jobs who had little control over their work were 15.4% more likely to die compared with those in less demanding jobs. Meanwhile, people in demanding roles who did have a high degree of control over their work saw a 34% decrease in the likelihood of death.
The study’s lead author Erik Gonzalez-Mule put it this way: “Stressful jobs have clear negative consequences for employee health when paired with low freedom in decision making.” On the other hand, he continued, “Stressful jobs can be beneficial to employee health if also paired with freedom in decision making.”

4. Am I doing what I was hired to do? This is as simple as reminding yourself of your job description. Letting your team get on with their stuff will free up time for you to do what you’re supposed to–and feel less stressed about your workload in the process. Set up the vision for the team. Manage your stakeholders. And then step back. Don’t worry–your team will come to you if they need you.


HOW TO CURB YOUR MICROMANAGING HABIT (AND DE-STRESS IN THE PROCESS)
So how do you stop being a micromanager? Start, of course, with those four questions above. But if you find that doesn’t cut it, try anonymous 360-degree feedback surveys to encourage your team to speak about your micromanagement tendencies. This can also help you learn how your bad habits affect them–not just in terms of executing their work, but also in adding stress.

Next, identify your fears. What’s the underlying anxiety that’s causing you stress? Is it fear of failure? Is it other people? An executive coach may be able to help you increase your self-awareness in this area, but so can building a solid team. You won’t be able to delegate if you don’t trust your team’s competence. Hire good people and invest in their development, and chances are your worries about things not going right will start to diminish.


Finally, step back and articulate your vision and the results you want your team to drive. Look away from the details of the work for a moment to reconsider its purpose in the first place. That can help you learn to stop dictating your team members’ “how” as long as they deliver on the “what” and understand the “why.”

Rather than you setting the approach, lay down the ownership and engagement guidelines for you and your team: What are the tasks and relationships where you won’t be involved? When should the team come to you? Then resist the urge to interfere unless they ask for your help or notice something unethical or dangerous. Done good enough by your team is better than done perfectly (does that even exist?) by you.

Don’t be responsible for harming your employees’ health and your company’s performance. If you can learn to stop micromanaging, you’ll feel a lot less stressed at work–and so will your team members.


Caterina Kostoula is an executive coach and global business leader at Google. You can download Caterina’s free balance and self-care tool kit for reducing work-related stress and follow her on Medium, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

IMPORTANCE OF AFFIRMATION.



Before a person can accomplish anything of an enduring nature in the world, she must first of all acquire some measure of success in the management of her own mind. If a person cannot govern the forces within herself, she cannot hold a firm hand upon the outer activities that form her visible life." - Mastery of Destiny

Rod Bremer asks a very important question: “If you had a friend who talked to you like you sometimes talk to yourself, would you continue to hang around with that person?”

How about this thought: “What would you do to someone if they talked to your children the way you talk to yourself?”

I'm constantly amazed at what people say about themselves. I wince when I hear someone I care about say things like “I'm so stupid”, or “sorry, I'm always late”, because I know it only reinforces a deeply held belief, whether it’s a subconscious one or a conscious one.

I wince even more when I catch myself saying those things because I know the damage it can do.

As F.F. Bosworth observed, “a spiritual law that few realize is that our confessions rule us. What we confess with our lips dominates our inner being.”

What are you telling yourself? What does that little man or little woman on your shoulder say to you? Is that who you really want to be?

Our friend and best selling author Lisa Jimenez teaches a technique that I think has application here.

For the next couple of weeks, wear a rubber band on your wrist. Every time you catch yourself saying something to yourself or about yourself that is not keeping with who you want to be, stop whatever you're doing immediately.

Then, confess the truth about you while you're snapping the rubber band on your wrist.

For instance, if you catch yourself saying I'm always late, stop and say to yourself, “I am thankful that I'm becoming more conscious of the importance of being on time and I'm improving every day.” Then snap the rubber band.

Do it several times to reinforce the affirmation.

Read the following words every day until they are ingrained in your soul, then you'll be diligent about what you say to yourself.

They're from Napoleon Hill, writing in the classic, Think and Grow Rich: “It is a well known fact that one comes finally to believe whatever one repeats to oneself, whether the statement is true or false. If a man repeats a lie over and over, he will eventually accept the lie as truth.”


And that’s worth thinking about. 

STAY POSITIVE.


You can stay positive throughout the day. 
The easiest way to maintain a positive energy all day,is to practice positive confessions. Remember words are powerful,and it determines the course of our lives, by speaking to ourselves we are filing up our minds with positive thought and expectations.
       
      ‘ I possess a positive energy
        
  That makes good things come to me’
                           -Edify Naomi

Say it over and over again, say it when you are just coming out of bed, say it while driving to our work place. Things may not be going according to what your plan,say it, you may be around people that complains a lot, say it and by saying  the positive Statement, it enhance your capacity to relate better with people and expect good things from life. You can’t afford to let anyone drag you down  with the negative energy they carries, instead start look at what is going fine and reduce your attention on things we cannot change. Trust me negative energy can be contagious but so is positive, therefore don’t spend so much time on people that complain  about government, economy etc. because whether we like it or not most of those things you don’t have capacity to change at the moment.

To keep  the positive energy going, hangout with people that like you, people that care about you, who are always looking for how to add value to your life, because what people say or think about you will never change who God has created you to be


MICHAEL ANI


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